Curious?

Send us a vetting request!

We are so excited that you're interested in Three of Canes! 3oC is a vetted, queer-centered, Burn and rave culture-inspired kinky play group. We'd love to get to know you better, and for you to get to know us better too! Please share a little about yourself and your experience, and we'll get back to you as soon as we're able. We will approve your friend request to our FetLife profile or send you a friend request if we approve your vetting request, and will also approve your RSVP to one of our play parties. Please note that vetting requests will be batch-addressed every 1-2 weeks. Talk to you soon!

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What name would you like us to know you by?

Please share your FetLife profile link URL if you're interested in joining us on FetLife.

Please share your Facebook profile link URL if you're interested in joining our private play parties group on Facebook.

Tell us a little about your history and experience with kink, BDSM, fetish, and/or alternative lifestyle communities and events.

Do you know any current 3oC members? If so, please share their names with us.

How do you define and establish consent? How do you wish to contribute to Three of Canes' goal of maintaining a safer experimental space should you become a member?

Have you ever been involved in a consent-related conflict? If yes, and if you feel comfortable sharing details with us, please describe the conflict and the outcome.

Tell us about a time when something went wrong during play. What happened, what was the outcome, and what did you learn from it?

Why are you interested in Three of Canes? Please note that we are a queer-centered, Burn and rave culture-inspired kinky play group and are not intended to be open to the public.

Have you been banned from any other organized groups or venues, kink-related or otherwise? (Bans from other groups don't constitute an automatic ban from us).

Please share your involvement with Burning Man, burns, or other alternative subcultures, OR check out the 10 Principles of Burning Man and share your favorite Principle with us: https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/

Please share your email if you're interested in joining our play parties email list.